Believe it or not, women who perform professionally for adult cams and cam sex shows actually need attention too. I know that’s kind of hard to believe. I know that it’s very easy to think that these women are sexual professionals and that performing on adult cams pretty much runs in their blood. It’s too easy to think of these women as simply just built for this type of entertainment.
If you bothered to ask them, you would quickly find out that they’re really not much different from women you naturally meet throughout your regular day. They just chose this line of work and it’s just one part of their lives.
You need to keep this in mind if you are looking to hook up with these women. Think of it this way. Have you ever been to a strip bar? Chances are quite good that if you’re watching adult cams, you probably have been to a strip bar or two in your life. If you’ve been to such adult entertainment centers, you’d know that a lot of guys that go there either as regulars or as one time patrons sometimes hook up with the strippers. A lot of them end up going out with the strippers.
That’s right, strippers become their girlfriends. Some, I’m sure, even end up marrying these women. So the picture that I want to paint here is there’s really not much difference in terms of what these women do and how people interact in the “normal” world. Just as people can make connections in other industries and other areas of life, you can also make a romantic connection or a casual connection with these women.
You need to keep that in mind because a lot of guys automatically think that women who perform for adult cams or who engage in online sex shows, are pretty much off limits. They kind of treat them in the same vein as professional actresses. It’s one thing to enjoy the performance of your favorite actress, it’s another to think that you actually have a shot of going out with her.
Well, believe it or not, you do. You just have to carry yourself the right way when you find yourself in chat rooms watching adult cams and seeing these women perform. So how do you go about doing it? What kind of game plan should you follow? Keep in mind the following tips.
Be worth hooking up with
The first step is to be presentable. Wear clean stuff. If you’re a little bit overweight, try to work on that, try to be a little more toned. In other words, bring a little bit value to the table. Put yourself in the shoes of the women you’re trying to hook up with. Are they always going to be thinking, “is this guy worth hooking up with?”
If you are serious about getting some action, then be presentable, be clean, and be at your best behavior. In other words, be worth it. This is non-negotiable.
Steer clear of harmful stereotypes and assumptions
Whenever you have toxic ides about somebody, it’s going to come to the surface. You might put up a good fight to try to hold it back and try not to be so obvious, but if you think all sorts of negative things about the person you are talking to, eventually, you’re going to expose yourself.
Keep this in mind when speaking with women who perform professionally at adult cams. These are online strippers. In fact, they go a little bit beyond what strippers do because they also do solo sex shows online. It’s too easy to come up with all sorts of negative stereotypes and assumptions regarding these women.
It really all boils down to the basic questions of “have you ever walked a mile in their shoes?” Sure, a woman basically maybe shoving a dildo up her pussy for a living, but does that really give you a right to judge her or somehow put her in a neat little box in your own mind?
The problem with this type of thinking is that if you’re trying to hook up with these chicks, they can tell that you actually think that they’re beneath you, or they are thrown-away people, or they are somehow someway morally inferior to you. It’s going to show up in your attitude. Either you’re going to be over compensating, or a lot of your come-ons can basically be mistaken for insults, or you may come off as patronizing.
Go in with an open mind. If you want to get rid of all those harmful stereotypes that may get in the way of your game, the simple workaround is to just go in with an open mind. Go in to have a good time. Go into the online chat room of these adult cams websites with the expectation that you’re not only going to have a good time, but you’re going to give the woman at the other end a good time as well.
This makes you more approachable. This also puts you in the right frame of mind. You’re more likely to take things lively. You’re more likely to crack jokes. You’re more likely to be more approachable and likable.
Compare this with coming in with all sorts of stereotypes in your head and basically coming off as judgmental, but at the same time pretty pathetic because you want to bang the woman that you are judging. Do you see what’s wrong with that picture?
Jokes are great social lubrication. Seriously, if you hit it off on the wrong foot or you make a bad impression, cracking jokes always gives you a chance to reset her impression of you. How do you do this?
Well, a little bit of self-deprecating humor goes a long way. Poke fun at yourself a few times. Of course, you don’t want to do this so much that it may seem like you have low self-esteem. That is a turn off for women. When women suspect that a guy has low self-confidence or low self-esteem, they run away.
They’re looking for a guy who is comfortable in his skin. They are looking for a guy who is able to lay it on the line and walk his talk. But at the same time, they’re looking for somebody with a little bit vulnerability. When you poke fun at yourself, it shows the world that you don’t take yourself so seriously that you think that your shit doesn’t stink. Self-deprecating humor makes you look more human in their eyes.
Zero in on what she responds to the most and give her more
This is my favorite piece of advice when it comes to hooking up with any women. You see, when you’re with people you don’t know that well, you’re always sending off signals. Pay attention to the signals that you’re sending out and pay attention to how she responds to them.
At some point, she is going to respond more favorably to some of your signals instead of others. The great thing about being in an open room at a sex cams or adult cams website is that other guys are also messaging her. In most cases, you can also see their messages.
Figure out what kind of jokes or what kind of statements gets the most positive response from her. Experiment a little bit by coming up with your own version of that messaging and see if she responds favorably as well. If you notice a consistent pattern, then you know what she’s into or how to approach her and give her more of that.
Call her to action
The final thing that you need to do after all the work that you did above is to overcome your fears, seriously. You overcome your fears because you are going to have to do something. You’re going to have to ask her for her email or Skype.
Now, there’s a strong chance that she will turn you down. In fact, there is a strong chance that she will even be rude about it. But you know what? At this point, you’ve given it your best and you really have nothing to lose.
What’s the worst that can happen? She can say no or she can just blow you off and pretend she doesn’t see what you’ve typed. No great loss, you just move on. Okay, so that’s the worst case that can happen. This doesn’t mean that you are a bad guy. This doesn’t mean that no woman would like you. It doesn’t mean anything at all. You just move on.
Compare this worst case scenario to what you stand to gain. There’s no comparison. Make that move. Call her to action!